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Anonymous asked:

Hey so my ex apperently told someone that he did something with me and it's not very... Appropriate. (Not sex. Kind of. You get it.) and his best friend told me and im freaking out because we didn't do anything at all he just wants to make himself seem cool i guess but I seriously need help. I stated over fresh as the good girl this year and I don't need him messing that up for me. PLEASE! HELP ME!

Hello dearest, 

First off, he’s a pig and you’re better off without him. If you hear people talking about you, I promise it’s only temporary and one instance won’t affect how everyone sees you. But if you are confronted with it, simply tell them what you told me. He was a pig who made a mountain out of a mole hill to make himself seem cool. They’ll understand and view him the way I see him. But I want to leave you with this nugget of wisdom that I live by and repeatedly remind my very judgmental and old fashion mother: NO ONE knows you better than you know yourself. People are going to make opinions about you. That’s what people do. And they could be way off base. But why should it matter what they think? They’re opinions are based of things they heard or your outward appearance. Its shallow. You know yourself! You know they’re wrong and that’s all that matter. You know who you are and the person you are. Remember that and don’t ever lose sight of that. People who truly know you, will know the beautiful person you are. Others who don’t are losing out on an amazing opportunity. 

Anonymous asked:

So I like this guy but I'm 15 and he's 18. And it sucks Bc he told his brother (my good friend) that he wouldn't date me for that reason. But I thought we really hit it off Bc we were talking and had a lot in common! And he flirted with me and were seeing a movie next week but as friends and I dunno what to do or how to feel.

Hello dearest, 

For now, just go with the flow. It looks like he has to figure out what he wants. To be fair it’s barely legal and he may be trying to cover his grounds. But go to the movie as friends, be his friend and see where it goes from there. It could become an amazing relationship with time. Or it could become a great friendship. Either one isn’t a bad option. 

Anonymous asked:

How do you get rid of the feeling that you are dead. I dont want to resort to cutting or drugs because i know im stronger than that but i don't know any other options...

Hello dearest, 

You get rid of it by getting help. I want you to know that you’re not dead! You are alive and what a wonderful thing that is. You have to opportunity to meet people that care for you, such as myself. You need to ask for extra help, and know that it does not mean you’re weak or something is wrong with you, it simply means you are strong enough to realize when it is getting to be too much. Talk to your family or a friend. Seek help. Go to support groups, see a therapist, whatever it takes, cutting is not a theraputic way to deal with this, it enables harmful behavior and that’s not something you want to get into. It harnesses negative thoughts. 

Anonymous asked:

I am so afraid to... Have emotions. What i mean is i don't want to think about the person i made out the night before i dont want to crush on someone at school and i ignore my best friend so i dont get so attached. Now that i realize how emotionless i am it just... Tears me apart and i just idk anymore.. What do i do?

Hello dearest, 

I just posted my own personal blog rant about my fear of attachments. I used to feel the same way. I was cynical and  I never gave anyone a chance. That isn’t fair to yourself. You are capable of liking someone and still keeping your friendships. So don’t let this break you. Learn that you’ll only regret the things you don’t allow to happen. You’ll have what ifs and those are the worst. Please learn from my own mistakes and allow yourself to feel. That’s part of being human and we all have a right to human emotions. 

Anonymous asked:

Hey! I like this guy a grade older than me and I saw him in the halls a lot last year and he and I have shared some glances but this year id like to talk to him because i kinda like him plus I think he's a cool person to b friends with regardless. He comes off as a douche bag appearance wise but idk if that's the case. I want to talk to him but I don't what to say without it being awkward, any advice?

Hello dearest, 

Why don’t you try a group setting first? Or talking over social media. Small steps. Social media is such a harmless way to talk to someone it barely counts. But a group hangout would be best. If you have mutual friends, plan an outing for a group and make sure he’s included. 

Anonymous asked:

All my friends have hobbies or like things they are really interesting in doing. Like skateboarding, photography, surfing. I want a activity/hobby to do to but I'm not interested in anything:( any advice?

Hello dearest, 

Explore your possibilities! Do you like being active? Go for a run, hiking or a bike ride. Are you artistic? Paint, write, sing, learn an instrument, craft (pinterest is a beautiful thing). Start collecting things. Do anything. That’s what matters, it doesn’t matter if you’re any good at it, just that you do it for yourself, that’s what a hobby is. And you have the fortune of being able to discover what that is! Find it. 

Anonymous asked:

I was sort of diagnosed with depression a few months ago but what is it supposed to feel like? I don't feel anything and I just really don't see myself getting anywhere, I mean i used to see myself going into uni etc now I just don't. I feel really lame and a waste of space if that makes sense. But yeah I don't really know where this question was going

Hello dearest, 

Let me answer some of your unasked questions. Just because you were diagnosed with depression, doesn’t mean it defines you. Only you can allow your mental illness to define you. You shouldn’t. You are more than depression. Your aspirations matter and they still should. You need to fight your thoughts. You’re not a wast of space. You are a beautiful person fulling this space in a way you could not imagine. Whatever you do, you should do it, because it matters. You matter. So go to the “Uni” (sorry I’m american and I say university) but do it! Get up love. I’m sending you positive vibes! 

Anonymous asked:

So I kinda like this girl, but she has a bf(isn't really working out so well coz he cheated tho) Even if she was single it wouldn't work out coz she's def straight.. It's tearing me apart just thinking about it. It hurts even more when she gets kinda close to me n starts playing n teasing w me coz it only reminds me of how much I want her n can't have her. I keep thinking of how I could make her feel special, wanted n loved unlike all her other bfs. It all sounds so ridiculous tho..

Hello dearest, 

It’t not ridiculous love. Your feelings are not ridiculous. They are valid. If you think that there is absolutely no way she could reciprocate your feelings, then I say you stop torturing yourself. Distance yourself. You need space and time to move on. You owe yourself the chance to be happy and by staying near her, you aren’t letting it happen. If you think she might like you too, tell her. Worst that can happen is you’re back to where you are and you can move on. 

Anonymous asked:

Hi, so my best friend got a boyfriend a couple months ago which is great for her, I really am happy for her but at the same time it feels like since they got together shes stopped hanging out with me. Eventually she stopped going out with our group cause she wanted to save money for dates and shes constantly texting him and it feels like she doesnt want to talk to me anymore like her world revolves around him. Dont get me wrong he's a nice guy but I wish that it wouldnt affect our friendship

Hello dearest, 

How about a compromise? If she won’t hang out because she wants to save money, do things that don’t require money, beach trips, going to the park, a movie night in. Friendships don’t need to be expensive. Make the effort to reach out to her. Sometimes we can get engulfed in our relationships that we ostracize ourselves, when we need our friends the most. She’s going to need you. Don’t give up on her.